‘Its easier to stay warm than it is to get warm’

I heard that on the radio the other day and it got me thinking.

It really does apply to me when I’m trudging across a muddy field to catch my horse, head-collar dangling from my shoulder as I blow on my hands to keep them warm. Or perhaps more correctly to get them warm. If they had been warm when I left the tack room, maybe they wouldn’t be so difficult to pump blood and warmth into.

I wondered then if that phrase would work for other human situations like, say, happiness.

‘Its easier to stay happy than to get happy’

I think it does.

When things aren’t going too well in your life the ‘getting’ happy can seem impossible. Much easier then, if applying the above rule, to stay depressed because you’ve already got that.

Maybe you feel so alone, the only one feeling that bad. But to stay feeling that bad, you subconsciously do move towards other negativity, other cold situations that validate and verify the feelings that keep you frozen.

If you told an ice-cube that heat was coming, it would panic and reach out for all the other cold entities in a subconscious fight to stay frozen, stay afloat in the dark abyss of depression. But an ice-cube is not just ice. Being frozen is just another format of its core, another facet of its crystal being. Like depression and anxiety they are facets of the same diamonds that make up our souls.

If the warming heat of positivity were allowed to act on the ice-cube and melt it from its cold, hardness, after the initial fight over the reinvention of its being, maybe the ice-cube could return to the flow of life.

Once it has allowed the light and the warmth to melt it into the water that it once was, it can travel to places it has never seen, experience things it has never been part of. It has joined something much bigger and much more expansive. The world could take on a different perspective, one that does not require the cold, dark void of hardness that the frozen state required.

So the getting happy can be achieved if this new perspective of finding light and warmth instead of cold and dark could be embraced. We need to reach out to each other to make the change collaborative and inclusive. We have to invest in each other for the long term.

Not easy, I truly know.

But its definitely easier to stay happy once your ice-cube has melted. Please look for the warmth…even when you crave the darkness.